You
know what I’m talking about – those seemingly random and bizarre thoughts that
pop into our minds. Without warning, they appear and we suddenly find ourselves
thinking thoughts that have nothing to do with what we were just thinking
about. When those thoughts are funny or frivolous, we don’t pay much attention
to them. But when they are truly intrusive, unfriendly, disturbing,
self-deprecating, or mean, it can be a struggle to get them out of our mind.
We
try not to linger on them because we don’t like the way they make us feel, and
we certainly don’t welcome them, but there is this part of us that has a tendency
to believe there must be something true within those thoughts if our brain came
up with them.
Don’t
believe it.
Here’s
the truth about the thoughts our brains generate. Brains are very much like
other parts of our body. In the same way that hearts beat, lungs breathe, and
eyes blink, our brains think. That’s what brains are designed to do. Their sole
job—24/7—is to think, and they never stop. It does its job even when we aren’t consciously
providing it with input. In fact, it’s still working even when we
are asleep, except that now our physical senses are providing minimal input so our
brains are free to make all kinds of wild and weird connections. Dream analysis
is probably one of the reasons we believe there must be a grain of truth about
ourselves, or our lives, in everything we think and dream.
Don’t
believe it.
The
one thing our brains aren't capable of doing while they are generating thoughts is judging them.
Thoughts are “logically” constructed (we’ll skip the details of how this
happens or else this post would be closer to 10000 words) and that’s why they
seem to make perfect sense. Our brain is trying to produce thoughts and ideas
that fit us. They all present a potentiality—sometimes wonderful
potentialities—but it stops there. If brains were capable of judging thoughts, we wouldn’t have bizarre beliefs
stuck deep within our unconscious minds. As soon as we acknowledge a thought
though, we are capable of judging it. We have the ability to make conscious decisions
about the validity and viability of those thoughts. We have absolute power
over them. We are the masters of our thoughts.
Here
are two things you can do when unwelcome or disruptive thoughts wiggle their
way into your mind.
1. Say to yourself, “Stop! This is just a thought. Just
because my brain is creative enough to think it up doesn’t mean there’s any
truth or value in it. I don’t have to think this if I don’t want to.”
2. Consciously change the subject to something you’d rather
be thinking about, something positive. Your brain will think about anything you
decide to start thinking about. And joyfully, it can only think one thought at
a time. If you don’t like the thoughts that are running around the inside of your
head at any given moment, just start focusing your attention on something different.
If your brain wonders back, acknowledge it, and start thinking about something
better again.
It’s
a very empowering truth to realize that we are each the master of our own
thoughts. Once this truth is embraced, it really can change the course of your
life.
Related to your post Valerie, in the book The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer, the author says that our brains and the thoughts it generates is like having a friend living with you, blurting out things that aren't necessary helpful. He says to consciously speak up and tell that friend to Stop It! and quiet them down.
ReplyDeleteYour the second person to mention that book. Hmmm. I guess I'm going to have to read it.
ReplyDeleteGreat advice, Valerie! Our brains are always trying to make associations. Some are good and some are not so good.
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