BE A REFRIGERATOR

Hello Speakers, Business Owners and Future Entrepreneurs,

Now that I am in my 50's my personality and persona has calmed down dramatically. I find that your true strength can be shown to others by remaining calm, cool and in control of attitude and actions in the face of great turmoil.

I once witnessed a confrontation with two men where I thought for sure there were going to be fists thrown. I believe it was over a parking space that was taken innocently. The man that was jilted out of his parking spot was speaking and yelling in a rage just inches away from the other man's face who had claimed the parking spot. 

The second man, when he responded, came across with a quiet tone and pleasant demeanor. He asked what I thought were some deflecting questions and alternatives to defuse the situation. After a few minutes the initial rage and insulting anger this man had started to diminish. A small crowd had gathered to watch this verbal barrage.
The second man offered to even give his spot up to the angry man. When this offer was presented the angry man became quiet (probably realizing how stupid he looked in front of everyone) and he walked away from the scene talking to himself. The situation was quelled!

Someone asked the calm man how did you hold your composure through it all?

He responded: "Sometimes you have to be like a refrigerator by keeping your real emotions frozen. Sure, I felt like hauling off at him a couple of times, however, the outcome would have ended in disaster. There would have been ambulances on scene or we would have been hand cuffed and jailed over what...., a parking spot. I figured I just have to make it through 5 minutes. I also figured when we parted company the chances of ever running into that man again were zero. So I decided to become a refrigerator".
As I think back on this story I wonder how many marriages, friendships and jobs have been lost because someone didn't turn on the refrigerator for 5 minutes and wade through the situation until it was defused. Honestly, I can tell you my refrigerator was turned off many times in the past. As I have learned the spoken word can act like a fiery spear or they can be words of kindness and love. Once you release those words you can never retrieve them. EVER.

Words can alter a destiny, it can change the way one looks at your character and it can leave a relationship in the dust or make it one they will write about in novels. So when you find yourself in a tense situation remember one thing. "TURN ON THE REFRIGERATOR"!

My best to you for this coming month.
          "Make It Successful"
                     John

The Author is John P. Slosek, Jr. He is an Insurance Agency Owner for over 30 years and a Radio Talk Show host for 15 years. He specializes in personal growth with mentality and money. He will speak to large or small groups and if available will fill in for last minute speaking cancellations.
His contact information is (413) 246-5037 or Insurancecoach@aol.com

24 Seconds to Fail

Merry Christmas Everyone!!! I wish you a safe Happy, Healthy and Successful New Year. My gift to you is this link and my personal football story that occurred in 1967.  Please invest 7 minutes and 50 seconds to watch this video first then read the rest of my Blog.

The title to the video is "The Greatest Comeback That Never Was". It makes you think what is going to be the outcome to this story. In 1967 I had the opportunity to try out for a sandlot football team in my hometown of Indian Orchard, MA called the Eastfield Rams. I had a burning desire to play football since I was 5 years old. At the age of 9 the opportunity arrived to play football and in 1967 I was a walk on for August try outs for the Eastfield Rams Football Team. There were only a couple of small issues. I was overweight, uncoordinated, slow runner, and could not catch a football to save my life. However, I could hit and tackle like a freight train. The month of August in 1967 was boot camp for the Eastfield Rams and it was grueling. The workouts were twice a day or known as (2-A-Days) and were very intense. Many kids that came to play and were in good shape and had ability to make the team easily but they QUIT. They were focused on the short term pain and ridicule that we faced during the harsh workouts. They lost sight of the big picture. I knew that the Head Coach highly disliked me and was very disrespectful of me. He figured I was going to quit after the first day. I defied every negative expectation he had of me and every negative outburst of me in front of my fellow players. The quality, poise, precision, attitude and level of success with any sports team starts with the Head Coach (The Leader). Some of the other players began to disrespect me along with the coach. They basically followed the leader. Through it all I had survived 30 days of August Boot Camp and it was time for what used to be called "Cut Day". This was the day that the head Coach eliminated players that he didn't want on the team. "Guess who was on the Cut List?" ME! This is where 24 seconds to fail comes in. Failure is a pure result of failing to act, failing to complete your mission, failure to stand up for yourself and to speak up for what is right at anytime without fear of reprisal. It is stepping out in faith knowing what you need to do at that moment and know it MUST be done.
If you watch the video above this team had made one of the greatest comebacks in high school history. With 24 seconds left they were celebrating, crying, wallowing in victory and just want to kick the football off let 24 seconds run off the clock and be inducted into Hero History forever. It wasn't to be! They took theirs sights off the mark and failed. They celebrated 24 seconds too soon. 
Getting back to me and August 1967 "Cut-Day". As the Head Coach read off the list of who wasn't going to be on the team ironically I was the last one called from the list. When he dropped the hammer on me said: " Slosek your off the team". My 24 second clock started ticking. In this short span of time I had to defend myself  it became one of the key moments that changed my life forever. I jump in the middle of the circle of standing players where the Head Coach was and looked him directly in the face and said: "WHY?" I haven't missed a practice, I supported the team in every way, I have improved my skills, I have learned every play, I have lost weight, I put up with your disrespectful attitude for 30 days. "I DESERVE TO BE ON THIS TEAM!!" An amazing thing happened. The assistant coaches sided with me and told the coach the exact same thing. Eventually, Coach folded and I remained on the team. This began a 10 year football career. I played 5 years with the Eastfield Rams, 4 years High School and made All-City as a Tight End and played 1 year of College before I hung up the cleats as a Wide Receiver.
In this life all of us will eventually will be faced with situations that will start our 24 second clock. When that day arrives will you be prepared to overcome any situation and win the day?
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All the best.
Sincerely,
John Jr.

John Slosek with Welterweight Boxing Champion of the World
Marlon "Magic Man" Starling his record  45-6-1-1 back in November 2014.
John is an 30 year Insurance Agency Owner in Chicopee, MA.
He will speak for groups and seminars on request. He will make himself available for speaking engagements if your speaker cancels last minute.
His forte is business development and personal growth.
He can be reached at Inspiringwealth@aol.com or by text at 413-246-5037.