So, what kind of person is a gritty person? Well, Dr.
Duckworth shares in her book that grit paragons are satisfied with being
dissatisfied. In their own eyes their own performance is never good enough.
They are grateful for their continual improvements, but they also know that
there is always room for more improvement. They’re driven to constantly improve
and enjoy the journey filled with all the hard work just as much as the
highlight film and medals at the end. In essences, they believe that raising to
the occasion has nothing to do with talent and everything to do with attitude.
Grit paragons love to compete. They hate to lose. And maybe even more
important, they love to keep going after failure when most others tend to give
up.
Those who defy the odds are especially gritty. Grittier
kids stick it out longer in order to graduate high school. They stay on the job
longer, thus are more often employed. They get advanced degree in college. But,
surprisingly, many of the grittiest kids of all are the ones who graduate from
two-year colleges where the dropout rate can be as high as 80%. Those who
overcome adversity that causes many others to quit become especially gritty.
Talent is constantly romanticizing our society. But the
truth is that talent distracts us from what’s even more important… effort.
Psychologists have long debated why some people are more successful than
others. This on-going debate goes back to at least the spirited debates that
Francis Galton and his very observant half-brother Charles Darwin used to
partake in. Darwin was always surprised that talent continued to dominate
Galton’s short list of what made people successful.
The father of modern psychology William Henry James said
that us humans live far within our limits and are only half-awake. Why? Well,
Dr. Duckworth seems to believe that it is because many people are distracted by
talent. Both their own talent and the talent of others is derailing them. If
they blame others’ success on others being naturally more talented then it lets
them off the hook for not being as successful as others. Furthermore, it makes
the status quo okay. So why try? In addition, if they focus only on their own
talent and the highlights of what they have become, chances are they never will
put in the hard work necessary for actually becoming that person that they
truly can become. Our culture fixation on talent, and constantly defaulting to
the easy explanation of success through the well-known talent story is hurting
us far more than it is helping us.
Even the great Charles Darwin admitted to his
half-brother Sir Francis Galton that he was never really that smart or
talented. He was observant, but certainly not any more talented than others.
Darwin equates his success to the fact that he would think about problems long
after others had given up.
So, now you must ask yourself if you have been fixated on
talent at the cost of grit. Focus on the effort and overcoming adversity and
you’ll become grittier.
Dan Blanchard is an award-winning author, speaker and educator. You can learn more about him at: www.GranddaddysSecrets.com.
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