Thursday, April 7, 2016

SCORECARDS...

I have been a sports fan since I was a little kid growing up in Milwaukee going to Milwaukee Braves games (they moved to Atlanta in 1966) and watching Vine Lombardi's Green Bay Packers in their golden age. The Braves featured future Home Run King Hank Aaron, Eddie Matthews, and Warren Spahn, and I saw them play against Hall of Famers Willie Mays, Roberto Clemente, Stan Musial, Frank Robinson, Sandy Koufax, Juan Marichal - too many to name. Awesome times!

Been hooked on hoops for a long time too: I was fortunate enough to go to Providence College (played trombone in the band) and their 1973 and 1974 teams were both top 5 (1973 was Final 4). The Big East was not even around yet... This week ,we just crowned two NCAA Basketball National Champs: the Villanova men (incredible game) and the UConn women (incredible dynasty).

SCORECARDS capture the details of sports competition - stats, winners, etc. These are ACTUAL EVENTS... All too often, it seems we have mental scorecards that negatively affect the lives of others and ourselves. These include comparing ourselves to others, criticising, judging, jealousy. They also include personally beating ourselves up over our own behavior (I "should" have), not living up to our own (and others) expectations. These are PERCEIVED - all in our mind...

People do not like to be judged or compared to do you? You can't change people - it has to come from them. You can only control yourself.

Scorecards belong in sports and competition, not life, period so throw out life's scorecards... Here are the much easier said than done solutions:
·         Interacting with Others: Realize that comparing, criticising, judging, jealousy, and such are YOUR THOUGHTS and are only real if you let them be. Look at the positive side of any situation and if there is none, walk away. Practicing gratitude is a great way to develop and practice positivity!
·         Interacting with Yourself: Also realize that passing judgment on yourself is self-sabotage. We are not perfect yet we are all individually awesome! We need to look at that magnificence in ourselves! If you are down on yourself, it is impossible to enjoy life. Instead of "scoring" yourself, create a check list (tasks, which lead to achieving goals) and cross off each task as you do it - you will feel great doing so...

FOOD FOR THOUGHT:
Work on it daily. Throw out life's scorecards. With others, change the world one person at a time by looking for positives in situations instead of criticising, judging, and being jealous. For yourself, create a task (to do) list that you update regularly while crossing off finished tasks.

Be POSITIVE - be HAPPY!!


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2 comments:

  1. Looking for the positive in people~~~~oh, yes. Sometimes it's easier to do with strangers than it is with one's own family. And we are often our own worst critics....

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