Step 4: Set Goals Outside Your Comfort Zone

These 5 Steps to Claiming Your Dreams are truly strategic. You have first off, given yourself permission to dream, taken the leap to make that happen, and then:

1.    Eliminated the negative messages from others and yourself.
2. Reassessed your values to see if they fit your next dream
3. Created the new identity that embodied your dream – making it yours.
4.  And now, setting goals outside of your comfort zone.

When your dream is locked into the need to play it safe you set yourself up to be limited in success, growth, and joy. Rather, it is imperative to set your goals well out of your comfort zone. In doing that, because it seems so outrageous, you are forced to clarify your wants and needs, you are required to have clear intention focused on exactly where you want to go, and being thrilled with the adventure of it all, you end up devoting yourself to making it all happen.

Clarity, intention, and devotion are the necessities of a successful company, a successful dream, and a successful life that is far beyond what you ever could have imagined. Safe results in stagnation whereas the risk of going outside your comfort zone brings up your fears, your passion, and amazingly the wondrous feeling of having been able to do it. Think of that saying “reach for the moon even if fail you will be among the stars.” It will be so worth the trip! 

Dorothy A. Martin-Neville, PhD, is a motivational speaker, author, coach, and psychotherapist who has spent her career helping others, through humor and faith, claim their dreams, eliminate self-sabotage, and become everything they were meant to be.

She can be reached at: drdorothyct.com    dorothy@drdorothyct.com   860-543-5629   

The Mayonnaise Jar and 2 Cups of Coffee

Dear Entrepreneurs, Speakers and Personal Growth Seekers, 

This months blog is not created by my efforts. Although it may seem like 

an easy way out to place a story of another (unknown author) into this blog without a name. I felt that the message this story carried moved my spirit. It wanted to share it with you. After 14 years of radio broad casting I have never deviated from my show's opening message. " If I can help one person from this message today to steer you in a direction that will change your life, then I have done my job". This is my purpose! 

 Please enjoy the the following. 

The Mayonnaise Jar and 2 Cups of Coffee

When things in your life seem almost too much to
handle, when 24 hours in a day are not enough,
remember the mayonnaise jar...and the 2 cups of
coffee.

A professor stood before his philosophy class and had
some items in front of him. When the class began,
wordlessly, he picked up a very large and empty
mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf
balls. He then asked the students if the jar was full.
They agreed that it was.

The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and
poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly.
The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the
golf balls. He then asked the students again if the
jar was full. They agreed it was.

The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured
it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up
everything else. He asked once more if the jar was
full. The students responded with a unanimous "yes."

The professor then produced two cups of coffee from
under the table and poured the entire contents into
the jar, effectively filling the empty space between
the sand. The students laughed. "Now," said the
professor, as the laughter subsided, " I want you to
recognize that this jar represents your life.

The golf balls are the important things - your God,
family, your children, your health, your friends, and
your favorite passions-things that if everything else
was lost and only they remained, your life would still
be full. The pebbles are the other things that matter
like your job, your house, and your car. The sand is
everything else-the small stuff.

"If you put the sand into the jar first," he
continued, "there is no room for the pebbles or the
golf balls. The same goes for life. If you spend all
your time and energy on the small stuff, you will
never have room for the things that are important to
you.

Pay attention to the things that are critical to your
happiness. Play with your children. Take time to get
medical checkups. Take your partner out to dinner.
Play another 18. There will always be time to clean
the house and fix the disposal." Take care of the golf
balls first, the things that really matter. Set your
priorities. The rest is just sand."

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what
the coffee represented. The professor smiled. "I'm
glad you asked. It just goes to show you that no
matter how full your life may seem, there's always
room for a couple of cups of coffee with a friend."

Have a great month. 

Sincerely 

John P. Slosek, Jr. 

413-246-5037 (text only) 
Inspiringwealth@aol.com